The Answerer

Q.112. ‘Has God tongue kissed – does he approve it?’

Q.113. ‘Where do babies come from?’

Q.114. ‘Does God approve of sex before marriage?’

Q.115. ‘Is it a sin to have sex at this age? ...

Like 13 and up because my friend had it?’

Q.116. ‘Does God like sex? (used to).

(These five all go together – and from five different people. I do hope the writers are not ‘having a lend of me’, joking, or just being silly) I did not understand, or remember all I heard in Year Seven, so I’ll treat them as serious questions.)

All five questions are a part of having babies.

As God is ‘Spirit’ (Jesus said that) so He is not flesh and blood as we are and did not, and does not, have a wifeto kiss and hug.

Are you dear reader able to spot what is missing in the above five questions? Look hard – read them again. What is missing! All five questions are on sex…you are strongly attracted to, besotted with a person (in adults it’s called lust).

Love is missing. Yes, love is the missing part. God planned that sex (kissing, touching and all that), is to go with love…in marriage, but we know better – or do we?

Around 5-10 people a day in Australia suicide. Why? Heartbreak, lack of love? Mental illness and depression (some from sexual abuse) can cause the loveliest people to suicide. A lot of people have severe depression – sometimes brought on by sexual abuse as children. We have a lot to learn and remedy about that.

Kissing and ‘touching’ is the beginning of having sex and having sex makes babies inside a female’s body. Babies come from a woman’s body as a result of having sex. God does not approve of sex before marriage. Why? We humans don’t know how to be sensible about it: simple as that. The TV, radio, magazines, etc. promote lust and adultery and call it ‘Love’ but it’s not! It is sex but it ought be called ‘Fake love’. Love is essential to happiness! We all, from babies to adults need to learn how to give love and to receive love. Humans are not ‘complete’ people without genuine love.

I watch the TV show ‘Dr Phil’ often. He is very wise, very kind, but very practical. Many of the people on his programme have deep personal pain and problems…many, because they took the easy way to sex and ‘Happiness’ and ignored the fact that God intended love and sex to be enjoyed within marriage. Maybe nobody told ‘em that!! Once two people are sexually aroused it cannot be stopped. Alcohol makes sex happen much more than normal – your sexual feelings ‘take over’ and you ignore everything you may have been taught from your youth.

Animals, with a few exceptions, have sex once a year to make babies. Mostly the mother raises the offspring (except a few). Daddy emu sits on the eggs till they hatch and raises the chicks. Poor dad emu! Mostly the male runs off till next year (lions, leopards, bears, foxes, etc) until it is time to mate again. Humans can have sex often if they want to but we do seem to make a mess of it and often and fail to ‘connect the dots’ and understand this business of sex and wonder why we are unhappy. Love and care for the partner is forgotten.

I was watching ‘Dr Phil’ recently. He tried to show a 13 year old girl that dressing in a ‘sexy’ manner invited boys to look at her, and think about one thing…sex. Dr Phil then invited the girl to walk around the walkways with him among the audience and return to the stage. She managed that OK. Then he put a blindfold over her eyes and helped her to walk around again. She was lost and totally bewildered. ‘That’s what you are doing in the way you dress and behave. You cannot see where it will finish up.’ (Getting pregnant, being sorry and very lost and getting a disease was not even considered by the girl.)

Yes! God planned that love and sex go together and ordained them to be enjoyed within marriage – but we know better!

In our knowing better there is an awful lot of sorrow, heartache and divorce. Kids suffer the most in a divorce, often blaming themselves. Take a daily, or hourly check of the popular music you listen to…how many times is love mentioned? In 50% of the songs or more, or less of them? Everybody wants love…and needs to learn to give love. In the 1950s a popular song was Love and Marriage (‘...go together like a horse and carriage’ – and had a great melody too). Such things as councillors, chaplains and psychologists were almost unheard of then. Society was without a lot of the heartache we have now and suicide was almost unheard of. What’s wrong now?

Back to sex! This desire/hunger/urge in sex can be a very strong force and few can hold back from it once kissing and fondling begin to get serious. All morals simply fly out the window because neither of you can, or want to stop. It can be a lot of fun…but pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases are not thought about. It hurts a lot of kids!!

Very early in the Bible God said: ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh.’ (Genesis chapter 2 verse 24) God knew that we needed sex – and within marriage you can have plenty – with no risk of a getting a dose of STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases). Some of them can kill you; and also make you sterile (unable to have babies). Jesus told of an example of wise and foolish people (and the moral can be applied to sex and marriage). ‘Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation upon the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practise is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the wind blew and beat against that house and it fell with a great crash.’ (Matthew chapter 7 verses 24-27).Around half of all of marriages fail. Mine did, so take care!

Finally, whatever you do, do not model your life on ‘Pop stars’ and ‘Soapies’. Very few of them, but especially the ‘plots’ and ‘happenings’ are good models of how not to live your life. I love to hear our local weather presenter Natalia Cooper say: ‘Congratulations to Bill and Mary, celebrating 60 years of marriage’ God bless ’em’ – I am sure they had some fights, but they hung in there because real love was there.