The Answerer

Boy I like this question and thank you for asking it. We are made to fall in love. God made us that way, thank goodness! And being in love is just beautiful, exotic and quite magical.

Not to be infatuated! Big difference. (My 1998 Collins dictionary and thesaurus says: infatuated: ‘foolishly enamoured’ – and the Thesaurus bit: beguiled, besotted, bewitched, captivated, obsessed, and fascinated. (1998 ed.)

All these can seem like being in love, so do be careful because often the opposite sex can be so fascinating that people confuse love with infatuation.

I believe God made us to fall in love (fortunately, not all with the same one) because that is part of the wonderful time of growing up. Can often be confusing, even frightening too. Only fools rush into it without thinking carefully.

There is a story in the Bible that exposes infatuation. A guy fell for a girl and is sick with ‘love’ for her and contrives to have sex with her – then he strongly despises her. (The story is in 2 Samuel chapter 13 verses 1 to 39). It is a story of false love (infatuation) rape, hate, shame, disgrace for the girl and later murder of the guy.

It happens today. We must choose carefully who to marry. There is quite a Bible ‘Soap Opera’ in that chapter 13.

Note well: “If a guy tells a girl who likes him very much – but will not have sex with him: “If you really loved me you would.” (have sex). THAT’S BLACKMAIL! He does not really love you and is putting himself first – not the one he says he ‘loves’! So take care. N.B. If a person truly loves someone, they will never pressure that person to do something they don’t want to do.